💬 How to Be Assertive!
Learn how to express your needs, opinions, and boundaries clearly and respectfully in English. 🧠
✅ Being Assertive
- I’m afraid I can’t do that.
- I’d rather not do it.
- I don’t feel like going today.
- I’d prefer not to have that one.
- Thanks, but I’d rather not do that.
- I don’t want to be associated with that.
- I’m not prepared to support that idea.
- I can’t make that a priority right now.
💪 Being Insistent
- I demand a refund.
- I insist that you get the manager.
- I know you’d like me to go, but I can’t.
- I’m sorry but 2pm won’t work for me.
- This one isn’t the one I was looking for.
- I won’t leave until I speak to the manager.
- I really need to change the time of the meeting.
- You’re going to have to respect my point of view.
🚫 Saying No
- Thanks, but no thanks.
- No, not at the moment.
- I’m afraid I can’t do that.
- I’m sorry but I won’t do that.
- Thanks, but I’m not interested.
- I’m sorry but the answer is no.
- I’m driving so I don’t want to drink.
- I’m sorry but I’m not comfortable with that.
- Thanks for thinking of me, but I think I’ll pass this time.
🔁 The Broken Record Technique
Repeat your message firmly and calmly:
A: Do you want the blue one?
B: No, I want the red one.
A: The blue one’s much better.
B: Well, I want the red one.
A: It’s much cheaper.
B: I’m sorry but I want the red one.
😠 Expressing Displeasure
- That was extremely offensive.
- I felt offended by your comment.
- I really don’t appreciate your tone of voice.
- It’s annoying when things like that happen.
- I’m sorry but I’m not comfortable with that.
- Please respect my wishes, even if you disagree with them.
🎭 Dialogue: Under Pressure!
Gary and Kiera are in a pub. Complete the prepositions.
G: A pint of lager?
K: No, I think I’ll stick to orange juice. I’m driving.
G: Oh, come on, one pint won’t hurt.
K: No, I don’t want to drink.
…
K: Well, I really need that money back.
…
G: So, are you going to give me a lift (10) the party then?
K: No, I’m going home. But you’re welcome to come and study with me.
💡 Top Tip
Use “I” statements: I want… / I need… / I prefer…
Avoid starting with “You”: it can sound too aggressive or blaming.
Soften your message when needed with: I’m sorry but… / I’m afraid… / Thanks, but…
📘 Glossary
to soften — to make a message less aggressive or direct.
provocative — something that might make others angry or upset.
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